Signs you are dating a crazy person
Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. I then got the silent treatment for the rest of the evening because I didnt wake up and cook dinner. If he claims things will only get better after marriage, just note that is a trap.
But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.” This alternate persona to the real self often comes across as grandiose, “above others,” self-absorbed, and highly conceited. Here are ten telltale signs, with excerpts from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Narcissists”. These are just two rather mild examples of things that have happened over the past few years. I I dont know if his behaviour can change or if he is even able to recognize it. This article really hit home because I feel like I have given up every single thing. If you're having second thoughts, it is your gut telling you something is wrong.
[Read: How to stop being manipulated in a relationship] #10 She’s uncomfortable with stability. Does she have acquaintances she’s known for more than a couple of months? Has she maintained a steady job for more than a year?
We’ve already said drama is troublesome, and a girl who can’t stand a comfortable life full of love and stability is a crazy girl that you definitely need to stay away from. If your girlfriend has burned every single bridge imaginable in her life, take that as a huge red flag, especially if she seems proud of herself about it! One bad sign that your relationship has headed to the “psycho-control-freak” zone is when your girlfriend starts to decide who you can and can’t hang out with, along with the date, time, and activity.
These girls are fun to watch in movies, but not so much fun to date. You didn’t need your mommy there to decide who you made friends with when you were growing up, and you don’t need your girlfriend to do it for you now! Writhing on top of you and getting loud, or surprising you with sex in the back of the cab are both pretty awesome…
[Read: How to handle controlling behavior in a relationship] #13 She plays the victim constantly. but getting holes poked in your condoms, having a selfish lover, or a porn-star copycat are definitely not fun sex partners.
Like a master salesperson, they use charisma to get your attention, flattery to make you feel special, seduction (flirting, gifts, dinners, get-aways, sex, etc.) to lift you off your feet, and persuasion to get you to give them what they want. Just know that is it entirely up to you to decide whether you want to live as his wife and be sad all the time or think things through and let him know what the problems are before marriage, the sooner the better.
What’s more, your girlfriend has got wind of these tales and adamantly denies all of them— even the funny, harmless ones! If your girlfriend lies about all topics, big and small, then you’ve got yourself a girl with a flair for drama. [Read: 8 sneakily accurate ways to tell if your girl is lying] #7 Surprises that cross the line. You don’t, especially when it’s your crazy girlfriend’s 6th surprise pop-in at work this week.
This can range from regularly breaking appointments, to habitually falling through on promises and agreements. not only did he have a few of these signs, but I can site examples for all 12. but his Charisma and charm sucked me in just like the article states.
The lack of dependability can be emotional as well - being there for you one minute and gone the next. I even had a similar incident with my mom being sick and he walking out on me... he is actually a retired mental health counselor, so of course I thought he was probably right and would only look out for any human being's welfare, especially mine.... the last we were together he went into a RAGE that I had never seen before so much that I feared for my life in the car, so I sat quietly and listened... I kept thinking maybe he was bipolar or schizophrenic, but I am CERTAIN it was narcissim....
These might seem like hilarious social stories when you first meet, but if you find that drama and crazy behavior seems to follow your girlfriend everywhere she goes, she may be the common denominator. We all know that girls can be nosy at times, and a little bit of snooping is sometimes to be expected when you enter a relationship. If your girlfriend has utterly high-jacked your social media, phone, or e-mail account and has made no attempt to hide it, you’ve got a crazy on your hands.
What’s more, if you find that your accounts have been wiped clean of e-mails and your photos and texts have been mysteriously deleted, you know who to blame.