Redating an ex
But, every once in a while I’ve been known to give it a go with an old flame, and it’s usually worth the second chance.Of course, when you date an ex you already know what to expect.No matter what happened between you before, whether he cheated on you or you were the one who did him wrong, the first rule of dating your ex is to not remind each other of the past.You should never start a sentence with the words, “Remember that time when….” Leave the past behind you and don’t talk about old (bad) memories.You have to forgive and forget, you have to be able to keep the fights clean.So, before you let your emotions from the past ruin your future, remember these 10 rules for dating your ex.Of course, giving him a clean slate doesn’t mean you have to go back into the relationship blindly. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember why things didn’t work out the first time and work around those issues. Although it is hard for people to change their ways, it’s not exactly impossible for people to change their ways. Were you too closed-hearted and emotionally available? When you get back with an ex, one of the first things you’ll notice is that all of those old feelings come back.In fact, rule number four is very simple: Be cautious with your ex (it’s very difficult for people to change their ways, so he might not be as perfect as he seems), but don’t completely mistrust him right away, either. One of the best things to remember when you’re getting back together with an ex is that it didn’t work out the first time. One of the most important things you can do for your new relationship with an old boyfriend is to remember your mistakes and NOT repeat them. I was recently kissed by an old flame with whom I thought I had become “just friends” and suddenly my pulse raced, my heart fluttered, and all those old feelings came rushing back into my head and my heart. But, before you jump into the sack on the first date, treat this relationship like you would any new relationship. The physical aspect and the intimacy should come naturally, but should also be done with caution.
Also, make sure the past doesn’t become the future. Just another hard working mom who loves her kid, loves to write, can’t cook, and has a thing for tentacles!Rule number three is similar to rule number one except it takes more effort.You have to be able to wipe the slate clean before you can get back together with an ex.Think this is a situation that only famous people get placed in? It happens all the time to people who are teachers, professionals, and average parents.Is it ever appropriate to get back together with an ex-spouse? “I can see all different kinds of circumstances why you might end up dating someone you’ve broken up with,” says Jessica Bollinger, a therapist in Lexington, Kentucky. If we want to try this, we can’t just have these little rendezvous.’ I guess I’d have to ask myself this. Why am I allowing myself to remain emotionally stuck, instead allowing myself to stay here?