Dating someone whose divorce is not final
By Tracy Achen If you are thinking about dating during divorce ... You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.
But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.
Strategic reasons not to date before divorce Emotions are raw during a divorce.
When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.
This will put your boyfriend smack-dab in the middle of your divorce, which is a quick way to put a damper on your new relationship.
Even if you ultimately get custody of your children, child support levels may be lowered because you are living with someone and sharing the expenses.
So what should you do if you believe that this new man is the one you should have married in the first place?
Make life easier on you and him both by postponing the relationship until the divorce is finalized.
He may try to even the score by fighting about custody of the children or how to split the marital estate.
If you have children, then you also need to realize that it's in your best interest to try to keep a cordial relationship with your husband.