Dating only one person your whole life
If I happen to meet someone there, then it will be a lucky coincidence, not because I sat through the world's most boring book club to make eyes at someone. My life isn't going to be somehow less worthwhile if I don't find one of them. A guy I went on a date once in high school called me the "Ice Bitch" when I declined to kiss him on the first date (he kissed me anyway, so let me take this opportunity to say eight years after the fact: you're a tool, sir).
I'm sorry about your great-aunt who never settled down and never had kids and regretted it. I don't need a man to do any of the things I want out of life, having kids included. I'm aware that all this keeping to myself is not necessarily typical of people my age, especially when I have no religious reasons or personal beliefs stopping me from dating.
It was a sign, to me, that maybe I wanted to give myself a little more time to grow up before putting myself in that position again.
And besides, for those non-daters who have been burned, I'm pretty sure the last thing they want is to share it with everyone who asks.You asking that question implies that you think I would just let myself exist in a miserable state, which makes it offensive on a lot of levels.I know this kind of thing is always said with good intentions, but that doesn't make it any less annoying.I had one serious relationship in college, and broke it off when it started to look like we were going to change our plans to be near each other after graduation.It seemed stupid to limit ourselves when we were so young.